Self-awareness is the foundation of thriving in romance.
1949hrs, the loud bursting of Nipsey Hussle’s victory lap album has gone quite, and self made dinner is ready, only awaiting a clean, bathed male that is me after a full day of fun fitness activities. But will writing a bit about love affairs hurt? No. I mean, who hasn’t fallen in love (or thought they were)? Who doesn’t want to love and be loved? Even gender critical feminists crave it. Toxic masculinity niggarz of the galctic men’s movement also love love. And now, so it goes.

There is a lot maiming happening between men and women who have had romantic engagements that turned out bad. And my very biased but accurate opinion on why this is so is because of a lack of self-awareness. In simple terms, true romance can not thrive where the man and woman are lacking self-awareness.
The world is filled with weak narratives and ideologies that keep people blocked from their truth right from birth all the way into adulthood. Everyone blindly follows a guru, a coach, a priest, their boomer parents, or a celeb as their north star of romance. And so most people never get to experience and give conditional love that leads to unconditional love, bringing success and a happy ever after. Most people have blatantly stated they’re in love, yet really, it was all delusions that led to either bad endings or ugly tolerance.
You absolutely need to be a self-aware person to know if a relationship is going to work or not. If you are incapable of reason, emotion, and blinded by popular culture and narratives, all your romantic engagements will be superficial nomatter how enjoyable they may be and might only end up in painful disappointment if not for you, then for the person you entangled with. Unfortunately, this is the way for many people when it comes to romance. It’s funny, people even marry based on these. Hahaha!
Anyway, since self awarenss is hard to achieve, your friends and family can help you know yourself and communicate it properly to your person or the person you’re about to get down with. But you have to be a mentally developed and open person to filter their advice.
Lack of self awareness in romance makes people lose themselves with each other, thinking they’re in love only then to arrive at a place where they can not go back, making the relationship ugly, and ending it with disappointment, a cyle that can continue if the breakup is not handled well.
It is why obnoxios gender critical feminists will say men are vain and trash. It is why toxic men will say only them are capable of loving. And that a woman is incapable of loving. To the woman reading this, men are not trash. It is because when you became sexually available to a lot of men, you lacked the discernment to know who you should give your body and why, and that was partly because of your stupidity and that of your parents. And for the man, love is just something that everyone is capable of. Women, even if you say they’re childish, can really love. Not a man’s thing alone, trust me.
Become conscious. Become self-aware. Then, find the self-awareness and consciousness that you have achieved in the person you want.
Once again. Biased, but accurate. Si mi ndo nakusho. Signed, Nick. Out!
More to follow.
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